So, I started watching the Netflix Series, The Let Down – it starts with Audrey, a new mom of a few months old baby, still hasn’t adjusted to her new life I suppose, breastfeeding, looks like on the brink of having PPD, a stay-at-home mom,, husband is working, and certainly, she is having a hard time with her life…
She joins a parent support group, but felt judged on day 1 but in the end she went back and the rest is…
Well, I just finished the first episode. I was enticed to watch it because it is about motherhood, and I can totally relate with the parent support group part of this series.
Really. I can TOTALLY RELATE.
I became a mom to my son, Coco, 5 years ago. I was a stay-at-home mom, a mompreneur, a breastfeeding mom, a cloth diapering mom, a baby wearing mom, baby-led weaning, (yes, almost all of what a millennial mom 5 years ago does). My husband is working, and was always out of town for work. I was caring for my son by myself, with super duper little help from my mom and our helper in Coco’s first 9 months of life, and totally, all by my self beyond that 9 months, when we moved out of my mom’s and lived on our own. I was very independent then, I would baby wear Coco, commute to Megamall with his stroller. Then when we arrive Mega, I’d put him down in his stroller. There was no Uber or Grab that time, imagine how we commute! Imagine that. Just us two.
But NO. I thank heavens, that despite of having to care for the baby almost alone every day, he didn’t give me a hard time. He was such an angel, he was not a cry baby. Hindi sanay sa karga. He would just kick and giggle to amuse himself beside me while I work or relax my self. He was clingy that he just wants me arms reached or just beside me, or he was hungry and wants to feed. I didn’t reach the point that I was too haggard for life like Audrey.
There was also a time when I want to go out with friends, but I can’t. Since, I got a baby, I can’t just dress up and just leave. It was always a no. It came to a point that I was never invited anymore, I live in my bubble, and they have new friends. I felt left out. Some were too busy with work, some were abroad. But I am always thankful for friends who drops by my place to visit us, when I can’t join them, that’s when you feel the love.
Unlike Aubrey, yes, she was invited by her friend to her birthday, but they were like giving her weird looks when the baby started crying. I thank God, my friends aren’t like that. I would always go out with friends when Coco was still a baby, for sanity’s sake. I bring him along with me. My friends understand, and they would adjust for me. We’d go to somewhere more baby friendly. Don’t get me wrong, there will always be bad days. Like nowadays, when I bring Coco along with me, there will always be a time that he will throw me an attitude.
And the support group, maybe life became really easier for me because I have a support group, even before I gave birth. In fact, we were already in a support group from the moment we knew we were pregnant. We all were giving birth during the 2nd quarter of 2013, that is why we could all relate to what’s happening in our body. Every little thing about our pregnancy, giving birth, new born, toddler up to now that the kids are now going to school, were shared among us. Honestly, they even know me more than my real friends. Years will pass, and that big group we had became a smaller circle that up to now, would listen to our rants and raves and rejoice with me and stick with me and be frank with me on some stuff. We’ve gone from just being in a support group to real friends, to our kids being friends as well.
I think in today’s world, a millennial mom – be it a SAHM, WAHM or a working mom – would not have life decoded, but it is very easy for us, because our support groups are only one click away. Aside from that, there are get togethers as well and lots and lots of mommy workshops and seminars available. Really, having a mommy support group nowadays is a treasure, especially if you joined the right group for you.
Sooooo, I’m gonna end this now, watch it also and now, I’m going to continue watching The Let Down in 3…2…1….