So, I started watching the Netflix Series, The Let Down – it starts with Audrey, a new mom of a few months old baby, still hasn’t adjusted to her new life I suppose, breastfeeding, looks like on the brink of having PPD, a stay-at-home mom,, husband is working, and certainly, she is having a hard time with her life…
She joins a parent support group, but felt judged on day 1 but in the end she went back and the rest is…
Well, I just finished the first episode. I was enticed to watch it because it is about motherhood, and I can totally relate with the parent support group part of this series.
Really. I can TOTALLY RELATE.
I became a mom to my son, Coco, 5 years ago. I was a stay-at-home mom, a mompreneur, a breastfeeding mom, a cloth diapering mom, a baby wearing mom, baby-led weaning, (yes, almost all of what a millennial mom 5 years ago does). My husband is working, and was always out of town for work. I was caring for my son by myself, with super duper little help from my mom and our helper in Coco’s first 9 months of life, and totally, all by my self beyond that 9 months, when we moved out of my mom’s and lived on our own. I was very independent then, I would baby wear Coco, commute to Megamall with his stroller. Then when we arrive Mega, I’d put him down in his stroller. There was no Uber or Grab that time, imagine how we commute! Imagine that. Just us two.
But NO. I thank heavens, that despite of having to care for the baby almost alone every day, he didn’t give me a hard time. He was such an angel, he was not a cry baby. Hindi sanay sa karga. He would just kick and giggle to amuse himself beside me while I work or relax my self. He was clingy that he just wants me arms reached or just beside me, or he was hungry and wants to feed. I didn’t reach the point that I was too haggard for life like Audrey.
There was also a time when I want to go out with friends, but I can’t. Since, I got a baby, I can’t just dress up and just leave. It was always a no. It came to a point that I was never invited anymore, I live in my bubble, and they have new friends. I felt left out. Some were too busy with work, some were abroad. But I am always thankful for friends who drops by my place to visit us, when I can’t join them, that’s when you feel the love.
Unlike Aubrey, yes, she was invited by her friend to her birthday, but they were like giving her weird looks when the baby started crying. I thank God, my friends aren’t like that. I would always go out with friends when Coco was still a baby, for sanity’s sake. I bring him along with me. My friends understand, and they would adjust for me. We’d go to somewhere more baby friendly. Don’t get me wrong, there will always be bad days. Like nowadays, when I bring Coco along with me, there will always be a time that he will throw me an attitude.
And the support group, maybe life became really easier for me because I have a support group, even before I gave birth. In fact, we were already in a support group from the moment we knew we were pregnant. We all were giving birth during the 2nd quarter of 2013, that is why we could all relate to what’s happening in our body. Every little thing about our pregnancy, giving birth, new born, toddler up to now that the kids are now going to school, were shared among us. Honestly, they even know me more than my real friends. Years will pass, and that big group we had became a smaller circle that up to now, would listen to our rants and raves and rejoice with me and stick with me and be frank with me on some stuff. We’ve gone from just being in a support group to real friends, to our kids being friends as well.
I think in today’s world, a millennial mom – be it a SAHM, WAHM or a working mom – would not have life decoded, but it is very easy for us, because our support groups are only one click away. Aside from that, there are get togethers as well and lots and lots of mommy workshops and seminars available. Really, having a mommy support group nowadays is a treasure, especially if you joined the right group for you.
Sooooo, I’m gonna end this now, watch it also and now, I’m going to continue watching The Let Down in 3…2…1….
“It was always a no.” – Relate 😦 I am a WAHM, and since I became home-based, I felt that I no longer have a social life, nor friends. In a few years, I know that I can start going out on my own, but at the end of the day, I will still choose what I have now, no regrets – being a mother to a makulit 6yo and clingy 2yo. This is definitely going on my list. Thanks for sharing 🙂 – Keyzie
Cheers to us mommas! Kaya natin to. Now that my Coco is a bit bigger na, naiiwan iwan ko na sya, and have some me time or kahit saglit going out with friends, one day, you’ll be able to again! fistbump!
This Netflix show sounds interesting, I had been a WAHM and SAHM, both have their pros and cons, ups and downs. Now this show is something that might be very relatable to me.Thanks for sharing!
Yes momma, very relatable in any type of mom, ultimo baby wearing at breastfeeding, me tackle eh! enjoy watching!
I can totally relate with the support groups. I just realized there are lots to learn- from the best strategy to kill a cockroach to financial planning. Hay. Motherhood.
And Ants!! I just searched for a home remedy nga for bungang araw eh AND for ubo! haha!!
Thank you for reminding me this Netflix series. A friend of mine also share this on newsfeed but I was hooked with movies recently and Girl Boss series in Netflix too.
Watched Good Girls a few days ago, now I’m watching Anne with An E, S2! =X
i will try to catch this! 🙂 sounds totally relatable. Also, I am glad Pinoys arent as judgy about crying and fidgety kids. Seriously, they are just being kids. 🙂
True. mas judgy pa sila sa public breastfeeding
Why didn’t I see this on Netflix?!!! Gaah..I’ll have to write this in my to watch list. 🙂