So, I was looking for something online and I stumbled upon Women’s Health article, The 15 Defining Moments in a Relationship and decided to post it here as well to share it to everyone! 🙂
Your first talk till dawn
Astronomers say it takes just over eight minutes for light from the sun to reach the earth. And that’s about how long it feels you’ve been talking, though it’s been over eight hours. “My God, look at the time!” you both say, cursing the violet sky. But it’s a good sign if all you want to do is talk for a few million more trips into space and back.
The first kiss
We know:Duh, But how could we not mention that Big Red moment? It’s like no other feeling in the world.
When he introduces you as “my girlfriend”
Its so utterly high school that the title still straightens your spice. But how can it not? You’re now officially pinned, picked, branded, wanted.
The first morning after
Some guys you wouldn’t share a fruit salad with, let alone a whole night. “You want coffee? “he asks the next morning, tossing the duvet your way as he pads to the kitchen. Please, he’s saying by the ease of his actions, stay.
The first time you grocery shop together
You know how his lips taste after a workout and a cold beer. You know to give him five minutes alone when he shakes his head in a “work sucked” kind of way. But to watch this man slip a big bag of chips into the basket with a dopey grin on his face–that’s when you realize you still have worlds to learn about each other.
Finding the nerve to say” I love you”
For most of us though, the moment is fraught with anxiety; What if he stares at us blankly? What if we’re saying it too soon, and,,, Sorry, what was that?You do?Oh, thank God.
The first time you write”we”in an e-mail to your friends
And they don’t write back,”We? Who the heck is we?”
The first time you fight and make up
Let’s be honest:If you never fight, someone’s not speaking up. Consider it like an oil change:a healthy way to clean out gunk so you can get back to the joy ride.
That first trip together
What better way to gauge how you’ll fare on your journey through life than to see how you survive hours of long immigration queues? It’s also when you establish who’ll get the window seat for the duration of your relationship–so act fast, woman.
The first time he lets you control his car/remote/iPod
Seriously, you don’t know how hard it is for him to hand over something he worships so much. Not as much as he worships you, of course, but close. Scary close.
The moment you see a future with him
Some women could imagine having a future with the guys i a Bench Body catalog. But with the man you love, the future you see is sure-footed and sane:A foot rub after a long day. A laundry basket and a loving squeeze (though if he’s folding, you really are dreaming).
When you notice you are no longer primping for him
Whoops!You’re sitting on the couch in your time-of-the month undies. Yet he’s looking at you more lovingly than when you’re all gussied up. Clearly, my dear, this is the real deal.
Going to the doctor together for the first time
Need reason number 600-something to stay fit?Have a long sit in a waiting room for someone you love. You’ll vow never to have to be there for something worse, because now you need to be healthy for each other.
When you care for something together
It doesn’t really matter if it’s a tomato garden or Rufus the drooling French bulldog. But when you’re both responsible for taking care of another living thing, your pairing becomes much more important. Be proud as you watch it grow.
When you commit-we’re talking long-term commit-to each other
On the one hand, it feels a bit like picking partners in the schooyard. (”You want me on your team? Really?Me too!”) On the other, it’s a watershed moment, when you find yourself so profoundly lucky that someone you adore so much fells exactly the same way about you.
So let’s try writing my top 15.
1. The first day we were together when we first got back together.
2. The first time we met up with our friends and told them that we are together again and he introduced me as his girlfriend to the newbies.
3. The first time he introduced me to his own set of friends (meaning, different from the gang we have while growing up)
4. The first out of town trip.
5. The first time we shared expenses.
6. The first time I prepared “Real Food” for him.
7. The first time we attended an event as a couple.
8. The first time we went to a government agency to do some very important document/s.
9. The first attempt to break up (sadly, yes… long story……..)
10. The first time we talked about moving somewhere else.
11. The first time he met my guy best friend.
12. The first real moment.
13. The first time he met my whole family.
14. The first time I met his whole family.
15. The first time we talked about our future together.
Margx says: These stuff included and so many other firsts and more future firsts could just be an add on to the relationship. It doesn’t mean that if you don’t have these or it didn’t turn out well, your relationship is doomed. Or it doesn’t mean that if you got 12 over 15 defining moments is that you are really meant to be. Because it is really up to you and your partner to make it happen, to make your relationship last. What really matter is how you understand each other, how you are willing to give and take, how you are able to sacrifice, your trust, your open mindedness, your willingness, your faith, hope and love are what would make a relationship survive, stronger and better.
I hope, just like what I did, you were able to think about your own relationships and reflect on your own defining moments. 🙂