So giddy of the Jennifer Garner and Mark Ruffalo sweet reunion, as I’ve always been a fan of the movie, 13 Going on 30 as a teen, that I decided to watch The Adam Project today with Coco. Thinking it was just another sci/fi film but it ended up with something a parent would really relate to, that made my heart ohhh so tender!
The film opens in 2050, where Adam Reed steals and escapes with a time-traveling jet for desperate reasons to go back to 2018 but accidentally crashes in 2022 instead. He would eventually meet his 12 year old self who’s still struggling from the recent death of his dad. Young Adam would eventually help to repair adult Adam’s jet because it needed his DNA and would eventually work together to destroy the time travel – The Adam Project – the magnetic particle accelerator – that was his father’s brainchild, as well as fight the villains of their story – Maya Sorian, the businesswomen who founded Louis’ research but took advantage of Louis’ death to monopolize it to her own benefit. In the end they would reconcile with his father and its shortcomings and grief that would eventually help adult Adam in the future.
But of course, this momma has a lot to ponder on while watching the film with my boy beside me – would make me really think about the things that we do, would actually really affect our children as they grow up, even when they are already adults. It goes to show how their childhood was would reflect how they will be in the future.
How Time is fleeting. “Son, you better start caring because the future is coming – sooner than you think” – In a blink of an eye our life may change, that is why we should do more for ourselves and we should make our loved ones feel that they are important.
How we should treat our parents. Nicely, with kindness, care and empathy. We just don’t know what they are struggling about in their everyday life. But despite of it all, they would show up for us.
If we are struggling, be vocal about it – even to our children. Because most of the time, we will be able to pull it through if we have someone who can be strong for us, and who can lift us when we are down. It is okay if we are not okay. Our loved ones, our children will understand.
How it is okay to be angry. In some situations, we use being angry as the defense mechanism because we think it is better than seeing ourselves sulking. It is fine. Totally. No one should invalidate how you feel. But we should know when to stop being angry as well and let go of that feeling to be able to move forward.
How we should be present parents. Our children are growing up too fast, let’s not waste our time in other stuff. Our children needs us. “He doesn’t need perfect. He just needs you.” They need us to play catch with. They need us to tuck them to bed. They need our hugs when they feel sad. They need us to teach them how to stand up to bullies. In the moments that our children need us, be the parent that they need. Don’t be too interested in the universe than your own child. PS. So they won’t have hang ups when they grow up!
How our children will find their place in this world. Time may be fleeting but we should also step back a little and let our children enjoy their childhood. We shouldn’t pressure them too much. They will find their place no matter what. Let them explore but guide them through as well.
How our children loves us no matter what. Let’s talk about the boys here. Because Adam is one and I’m a boy mom too. Boys always come back for their mamas. When we think our boys, especially teenage boys, are starting to be too difficult to handle and we start to question ourselves. Please don’t! We are doing nothing wrong, and we are just doing what is always best for them. And yes, at the end of the day, no matter where they go and what they are doing, they will come back to us. Because we are home.
Letting go. Sometimes, for us to move forward, to be free, we have to let go of the past.
How destiny works. No matter how many times you jump from timeline to time line, what is meant for you will always find their way back to you. Your story will always be your story.
The Adam Project is a fruit of the father’s genius mind, but Adam is a fruit of his genuine love. Louis knew that it was a mistake for him to focus on other things rather than his own universe, his family. It is too late yes. The day our child is born, our life changed as we well. They should be the most important to us above anything else. Affirm our children how we much we love them. So that they will grow up knowing that they are loved, from the moment they took their first breath and will stay in the core of their heart throughout all times. Tell them you love them – more than they know.
PS. You may be a 12 year old small, fragile, nerdy big mouth with an inhaler but one day, he will kick your a$!
PSS. ANNNND Don’t forget to give your mom and dad or your child a break-a-rib-kind of hug today!
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