Everything I did with and for Coco during his infant years were what I think was best for him. I breastfed him. I used cloth diapers instead of disposables. I did baby wearing him. I didn’t let him used gadgets. I am all for free and active playing. But until now, what I regret is that I did baby lead weaning (BLW) with him for mealtime. Don’t get me wrong about this. I am quite so sure that there were lots of babies that was successful with this. It’s just that I felt that it was one of the reasons why he became a picky eater. I had to make him separate food that he won’t even really eat.
I remember reading before, those infants that does BLW, has less chance of being a picky eater. I believed it but it didn’t go well with us. This is not like a tradition or superstitious belief but it was something that I wish I didn’t do. I wished I didn’t had to prepare him some other food for him to eat, instead, I would just let him eat the food I am also eating. Instead of cutting the veggies/fruits in cubes. I would just spoon feed him, as it would have been some sort of bonding for us, two that I deprived him because I was too beguiled at the current “mommy fad” during that time.
Yep, I’m not solely blaming everything to BLW. I would have blame us, parents as well. Because I tried so hard with the BLW thing, I took for granted what was more important, which was to eat together and this I believe is the main reason why my son ended up picky with the food that he eats.
As Coco was growing up, he wasn’t accustomed to us eating as a family. Either I let him eat first while I am doing other things or we eat together, just the two of us. Why is that? Well, my husband wasn’t always with us. He worked in a company were they would send him else where for work. Present time, still the same. He works night shift, so it is always just the two of us. Because of this schedule, we rarely eat together. If it is his dada’s off, he would still rarely join us, as he would still be asleep or would be doing other things.
Now, he is bigger and is turning 7 years old in a few months, still a picky eater, but lesser than when he was younger. Dada would try his best to cook something for us during his off. Yep, dada is the cook between the two of us. I would just cook whatever we have available in our fridge, mostly processed. Do. not. judge. Nowadays, since he is less of a picky eater now and that it is easier for him to let him try new food, I also would try so hard to cook healthier ulam for him. With healthier, it meant that not cooking hotdog or meat loaf. I would cook him breaded chicken fillet, that would fit perfectly with the video I will be sharing below. Because that is just how I do it.
Nowadays as well, I try so hard to eat with dinner him, even if I still have work to do. We don’t eat lunch together most days, because he eats lunch in school now. Surely, I regret the years that could have been spent bonding over meal time, even if it meant just the two of us. There’s still tomorrow, right?
We still don’t have dada with us most meal times but now, we make sure to have even just a day when the three of us are together for meal time – whether when dada cooks his delicious ulam or when we dine out. Enjoying the moments that are rare, were we would learn more about one another, bond with each other as we have little conversations that we will always remember.
So wait, do I blame Coco’s being a picky eater to my story above? Yep, I think I do. Why? Because if he is used to us eating food, he would have copied us. If we didn’t cook lousy meals, then he would be more at ease at eating normal house meals. If we only served one meal, then he wouldn’t have a choice. If we didn’t cook a separate ulam for him, nor decide our ulam based on the food he would it, then maybe, he wouldn’t be picky. If we just did tried our best to make meal times better and happier, maybe.. we wouldn’t have a hard time.
Sharing with you the video of Eats Jeremy, where he enjoys mealtime with his mom, who talked about superstitious beliefs that she or her family believed in, that I could totally relate to, when I remembered how I easily do something because they say this and that, when all we have to remember is that not everything can be true to everyone.
My child is a picky eater too and I used to be stressed because of it. But as I hear stories of their children being a picky eater when they’re young and now eats anything served on them, I just tell myself that it is a phase my son is going through. I can still do something about it. Don’t give up momma! you can do it 🙂
Ohhh this, I can relate. I think, whatever works in our household go tayo and I think it is better kasi hindi naman lahat pare-pareho ang kids eh…We should follow our child and let them enjoy the food…Thanks for this mommy… 😉
I feel you because I did the same. My son is a picky eater too he won’t eat the food that he doesn’t like. He only loves gogi (it’s meat in English). I regret those things I have done too. We also have the same situation, we were always left, just the two of us.
aww…don’t feel to bad about it. I also had my regrets when i was a new mom to my eldest son. Would you believe that I actually thought hotdog and rice was healthy breakfast??? hahaha OMG.
We always do what is best for them. But, what I learned is that if something worked for others it doesn’t mean that it will work for our baby too. Daya no? Also. let just forget the ‘what if’s’ and focus on now and what to do next. 🙂
I’m singe and I don’t have a kid yet but… this info might be useful in the future. 🙂
Before my daughter is sobrang pihikan din sa food. Kaya ang payat nya. Minsan nga nasasabihan na kami na ang taba daw naming mag asawa pero ung anak namin hindi. Hahaha! Pero super thankful now malakas na sya kumain and marunong na kumain ng veggies. I guess my phase lang talaga pero kelangan ma introduce din sa kanila talaga ang pagkain ng veggies and other healthy food.
That’s alright. I dont think there’s much to worry about. Your family is going to be okay. Stay strong lang po!!